Don’t be in a job for what you get but be there for what you become. Similarly don’t be in a relationship for what you are getting. But be in it for what you are becoming. A relationship where the basis is only of what is in it for me leads to agony. But a relationship that shapes you to be a higher conscious human being, a lovable person, a genuine person, a positive person, a broad minded person, a successful person, then u are becoming something extraordinary in that relationship. This means u are shaping yourself and not shaving your inner personality and inner potential off yourself. Same goes for job. Think now are u in a job that gives you something or are u there because you are becoming something.